Thanks alot

From jean's blog:

during dinner, as ivan was just opposite me, i became the most convenient source for him to rant to. for the entire time, he was mostly looking down (pun intended). there are many things i would really love to tell you ivan. during dinner you also mentioned something about change which i’ll briefly mention. but because i’m not comfortable with telling it face to face, and it probably wouldn’t have much effect that way either, here it is in writing:

it is somewhat nice (for lack of a better word) for us girls to know that a guy likes you. and yes, it can be sweet if he has liked you for a long time. unfortunately it is not always mutual and reciprocated, and again unfortunately the guys have to bear the brunt and embarrassment of rejection. (it’s not like we enjoy rejecting too yeah..) and when we do say no, we mean it (one of the rare times that a woman means it when she says no), so we’d really like to help you to get over us and move on and find someone else better. so when it seems like you haven’t, and you keep asking and trying again, but it will always be that same answer you will get, it becomes irritating and annoying. perhaps in some situations and manner, she might have given you false hope or suggested something otherwise, but like you said, now things have changed. the situation is different now as compared to then, and i hope you will take this as the final answer. as we grow older, we are bound to meet people along the way and find partners. remaining as friends is always a possible alternative, but it won’t work out when you want it to be more than ”just friends”, because we remain distant and wary because we know you are still not over it.

i hope what i’ve just said speaks for most girls, meaning her included. give it a thought, and set your mind on a final decision, and follow it hard, and looking ahead in achieving other things in life..like establishing a career ie. getting a good degree with honours. yeah? you can do it ivan. you need to set those goals, and look to attaining them. maybe in this way, you’d be your “cold, cruel and efficient” old self again, but more importantly confident and successful, yeah?

Well, just want to say thanks. It may not seem like much, but at least now i understand. Its time i stopped brooding over her and just got on with my life. Listening to Firmin and reading what you wrote knocked some sense back into me. Thanks a million guys.